In Honour of Those Who Won’t Make it, I was a Victim of Abuse

whiteribbonI never thought I’d be one of those girls. You know the type – the ones who cling to poisonous relationships, allowing their partner to strip them of their self-esteem, self-love, and eventually, their happiness. The term ‘abusive relationship’ was foreign to me. Although I’d been teased, threatened – and finally – physically harmed, to call my partner an abuser seemed completely over the top.

In this piece for The Morning Bell blog I write about acknowledging abusive behaviour in relationships, both as a favour to ourselves and in honour of the women who are killed by their partners in Australia every week. Today is White Ribbon Day, the largest male-led campaign to stop violence against women in the world. Awareness, education and acknowledgement are key in allowing victims to feel strong enough to save themselves.

Have a read here –

Image: White Ribbon


  1. Brilliant post, that is why I am writing my story, I kept quiet far to long in my life. But in my time what went on behind closed doors stayed there. For all women we need to speak up. Thank you for the follow. I am going to reblogg your post.

    1. Thank you! We do need to speak up. I found writing about it helped me to feel like I had ownership over my own experiences. Best of luck. ❤

  2. As someone who grew up around this sort of violence, this article really resonated with me. I never understood how someone could fall into that sort of thing, but I think I’ve been enlightened, somewhat. You think something’s impossible until it happens to you. Thanks for writing this.

  3. Reblogged this on Michael's Origins and commented:
    As I was eating my oatmeal bar for breakfast and searching through the murky waters, I noticed I had a new follower, two in fact and I will get to the other follower momentarily. I searched Kezia Lubanszky site and found this one that hits home for me. I had a female friend while in my 30’s and hope that her fate is that she is still breathing the air that we do. This is about abusive relationships. A very good read. Thanks for following my new friend!

  4. You speak for many who have remained unspoken…it’s about taking back that self-worth and I applaud you for writing this!

  5. When I was growing up, we were promised they would end the abuse.

    They seem to have made the abuse so much more prevalent instead.

    Keep your head up.


  6. Did you ever read the poem on my blog “Just Remember”? I thought of it when I read this. Love is never abuse, but sometimes the strongest high can be the hit, quite literally, and it can draw a person like no physical drug could.

    I personally have to say, I do not think survivors of abuse are obligated to speak up. They didn’t ask to be abused, and they have the right, always, to be left alone. The abuser is obligated to speak up. And while the abuser usually never will, that’s not the victim’s fault.

    FYI my blog is now under the website Looking forward to seeing you there.

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